Life After Him
My children's father was a very mean person, and I felt for anybody who would come near me so I stayed away from other men for quite awhile although he was no longer in my life. My relationship, if you want to call it that, was a horrible experience for my children and I.
When the relationship ended I spent many years focused on my kids and I, and in healing my relationship with my kids.
When I was ready to date, I dated a wonderful person for 1 year before he even met my 2 daughters. People thought I was crazy, but I quietly felt it was best for everyone in the long run. After that year, they met and we spent another year together before we even moved in together.
My children did not really know my business on purpose. As far as they knew he was a friend they never really got to meet that first year except for a couple of appearances. Today, we have been together 5 years. I am very glad that I made the choice to be careful during introductions. Men have hearts too, and they can become just as attached to kids.
All it would take was one phone call to my children's father by someone, and I would be running from him again. My boyfriend would have had to deal with him, and I didn't want that. So, I was quiet. It was hard, but I did it. To many head concusions was a constant reminder to me of how important it really was to remain hush.
To this day my fiancee' and my children's father have not met, and their father backed off a few years back. This tells me I made very good choices that affected everybody.
Just thought I would share,